I want to talk a little about being a stay at home parent. I know a lot of people have different opinions about it and for many it’s not even an option. I was talking to a friend last night about it and it got me thinking. I know for myself personally, before I had kids, I used to criticize stay at home moms as if they didn’t do anything. When I worked and one of my employees couldn’t come in because their kid was sick I used to get annoyed. I used to think that stay at home moms got to shop and do yoga all day. Also btw if you are a mom that does this, I still respect you and please send me some tips and how you make this happen. 

When Liam was born I wasn’t sure if I was going to go back to work or not but I was fortunate enough not to have to. My husband and I worked it out that if I got a nanny and went back to work, my paycheck would basically cover the cost of the nanny so it didn’t make enough sense to do that.

However I also DID NOT know how much of a full time job it was to stay at home with a baby. Becoming a parent is such a crazy experience already in the physical and mental aspect. Not to mention that being pregnant and after giving birth you realize that hormones are a real thing. This new job was such a wake up call for me and for sure the hardest full time job I have ever had. It’s 24/7 non stop being run around by a kid and keeping them from choking, falling and basically dying all day long while also running a household, cooking, cleaning etc. However at the same time, it’s also extremely rewarding and the most amazing job I have ever had and I wouldn’t trade it in for anything else. I feel so lucky that I was able to be with Liam and I’m able to be with Bailey now. 

So in December Bailey will be 2 and I was thinking of starting her in preschool. I’m also extremely torn. This time goes by so fast and they are only little for so long and I remember some of my favorite moments with Liam was between 2-4 because he reached the age where he was much more interested in doing things and going places and it was so much fun watching him play. I don’t want to miss out on that with Bailey. 

Right now I’m so so grateful that I am able to have my niece for a few hours a day who helps me with cleaning food shopping and watching Bailey so I get to go to the gym. This has changed my sanity level completely. I am able to spend more time with Bailey and less time on certain things that previously would make me bitter or resentful as a mom and a wife. I know that I get criticized by some people for having help but also I don’t care, my sanity and my family’s happiness is more important that other people’s opinions so that’s neither here nor there. I’m just commenting on it because I get asked how I handle certain things and I’m letting people know I have help. 

I feel like there’s no right or wrong way to parent and it’s the most criticized and opinionated subject I have run into especially on social media. I just want to say that if you’re a stay at home parent or a working parent and wether you have help or no help, you’re doing great. Make sure you take care of yourself and take care of your family and keep it up. They’re only little for so long and what you do now, however you do it, will help shape our next generation. 

Anyway, that got a little deep at the end. Writing a blog is weird. I feel like I’m talking to people but also have to make sure I talk in the right way to communicate correctly? If you have any opinions or suggestions on what I was talking about, let me know on my Instagram post because I still don’t really understand how this blog thing works with comments haha.